I Had A Strict Mom But I Stood Up For Myself

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  • Published on:  Saturday, January 5, 2019
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    This is Elly, and she wants to talk to you about having a strict parent. Being a parent is hard, they say, and some parents do a perfect job. Some don’t. And then there is her mom. She took this parenting thing way too seriously, so much so that Elly was scared of her.

    Elly’s mom is single. Her dad died when she was only two, and she doesn’t remember him at all. Her mom was very young at the time, 23 or 24, and there was literally no one to help her – she was an orphan. But kudos to her mom; her self-control and discipline were admirable. She managed to get a job, raise her daughter at the same time, and never complained about anything. She’s just that kind of person who’s intent on excelling in everything she does. She was a straight A student at school, and a top student at college. Then she got pregnant and had Elly, but still her life was well planned – the initial idea was that when she grew up a bit she would go back to her studies, and then start her career as a lawyer. And Elly is sure she would have succeeded. But then her dad died and she had to reinvent herself, get a job and forget about studying.

    So this is where her mom’s story ends, and Elly’s starts. She’s always been a regular kid, 100% similar to any other child on Earth. But this was not enough for her mom. You see, her mom believed that her daughter must be perfect, like everything else in her own life. But Elly was not perfect at all. She liked running around, shouting, climbing trees, jumping in puddles and coming home dirty, being lazy and disobedient, sometimes throwing tantrums. And this is how it all started – her mom started being strict and punishing her.

    She was 5 or 6 when her mother first got angry with her, and explained to her very clearly that she expected her to be obedient, calm and do whatever she told her to do. It all sounds perfectly normal, but you should have seen the look she gave her at that point. She explained to Elly that she already had lots of problems to deal with, and didn’t want her to add any more.

    That was when her super-disciplined life started. She was not supposed to get into any trouble, ever. She was not supposed to object to what she was told to do. She was supposed to always be conscientious, tidy, precise and punctual. At school she had to get A marks, no exceptions. And what happened if she failed? Well, nothing terrible. She would just look at her and say calmly that she was deeply disappointed. As you can imagine, it’s horrible to get that from your mom. And if she screwed up a lot, she grounded her. Or banned her from watching TV. Or something else equally horrible for a kid. If it was a huge screw up, she got special treatment.

    It doesn’t sound that horrible – and it certainly wasn’t abuse or anything. But for her, it became a kind of pressure she just couldn’t bear. The fact was that she was not perfect; she was not a high achiever at school and she couldn’t meet her mom’s expectations. And she was punished not only when she did something wrong, but when she did her best and failed.

    But don’t think Elly’s life was about fear and nothing else. Her mom’s actually very affectionate, and she got lots of attention from her and lots of love, until at some point she didn’t screw up again. And this emotional roller coaster caused her lots of stress. However, there’s a good side to having a strict parent. At some point you notice that you start being more organized and responsible. This is her strong point. But when she reached her teens, she experienced a lot frustration, because her mom told her who out of my friends she approved of and who she didn’t, what she was supposed to do and think, and of course – definitely no boys. You don’t treat a teenager like that, she wasn’t a child anymore! But she still couldn’t stand up for herself. So what she did was she took up volleyball, and became the strongest hitter of her team – she put all the force of her frustration into every attack she made.

    However when she was 16, the time came to do something. Once more, her mom tried to stop her from going out with her friends – without explaining the reasons why she couldn’t, just “because I said no”. That’s when Elly decided to give her the talk. The time had finally come to stand up for herself. She told her mom that she was 16, she was a responsible and mature person and she could decide for herself what was wrong and what was right. She wasn’t perfect, and she understood that she wanted her to succeed in order to fulfil her own ambitions that she had had to put off. But now, it was enough. She would soon be going to college, she said, so just leave me alone and take care of yourself!

    It was harsh, and her mom retained that stiff expression on her like she always did. But it didn’t have an effect on her anymore.

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  • ACTUALLY HAPPENED

    ACTUALLY HAPPENED

     9 months ago +1648

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  • Fadhila Lucky

    Fadhila Lucky

     5 days ago

    Often they get so carried away with wanting what's best for us along with looking out for themselves they don't realise they go too far and disregard how we feel about it

  • Fadhila Lucky

    Fadhila Lucky

     5 days ago

    Arghhhh I could relate to you in so many ways, my parents always had a right old go at me and got all harsh and shouty and critical when I did stuff wrong I never intended to do or just stuff I like that doesn't directly bother people or for things that aren't necessarily my fault and sometimes pushed religion too hard on us and slapped me around too when I was younger, and they kept saying it was for my own good and they only wanted what's best for me when it seriously wasn't if it upsets and angers me that much and makes me hate them. And Im sick of people including them telling me they're only harsh cuz they love me and teaching me and care well love and meanness don't go together now do they and I won't be taught in unpleasant ways and they can care and look out for me in a less mean annoying way than that. And constantly intervening with my business and issues when I don't want to be protected or worried about like a kid! They just won't listen when I try to explain that I don't like it and even when they seem to they just don't change and say they have every reason to be the way they are when I want them to stop it! Asian parents are especially the baddest on this, thinking being cruel is all great and never seeming wrong in front of their kids and feeling the need to keep them in their responsibility no matter how old they get until they're married (which is what I don't want to do either). I'm never being a parent myself that's for sure, I hate people saying I'll discipline my kids and they'll treat me the bloody same way, Im not bringing out that sort of pain on the younger generation

  • Love Arevalo

    Love Arevalo

     7 days ago

    Respect. My mom fucking sucks. Always says hurtful words to me and every little thing she gets mad. That's the reason why I'm not close to her. She's got a garbage attitude. She thinks that shes a boss. No wonder I hated her so much. I wish I have a mom that is not like what i said above. Hopefully she gets what is coming right at her.

  • Timyra Vessel

    Timyra Vessel

     14 days ago +1

    She sounds like a good mom to me she just wants her way

  • •.r o z.•

    •.r o z.•

     21 days ago +1

    like my mum my mum really hate me and she only love my sister even my dad tho... she haut me every day wan ppl.or firends ask me why i guss like say “oh nothing i fall an the floor” i always hied it and idk what to do with life my plant for this yare to found a now home so i can have butter life i hope som one can sport me....i know som word are worng bc am not english...thanks for reading,,,don’t ask me how am life now guss i we’ll think about it..

  • Angelo morgos

    Angelo morgos

     21 days ago

    Having a passing grade is good enoght

  • DEMHAX nice firewall

    DEMHAX nice firewall

     21 days ago +1

    I am a asian so both my parents are very strict. Once, I swear, my mom bear me WITH A FUCKING FRYING PAN

  • black spider_HD

    black spider_HD

     21 days ago

    I had best parents ruined all my summers from age 12 to 16 I was working all day from 8am to 3am an I was a waiter all day work

  • Otto Von Bismarck

    Otto Von Bismarck

     a months ago

    My mom is evil

  • King LF5

    King LF5

     a months ago +1

    If anybody sees this







    you have good luck. Like to activate.

  • Tatijana Tannous

    Tatijana Tannous

     a months ago

    try living with a leb:




    Me: *Forgets to put my clothes in the wash and 'fix' the couch
    Mum: *Takes slipper off her foot and throws it at me and takes my phone for two weeks

  • eng 21

    eng 21

     a months ago

    I Live kace

  • Thomas Guenzel

    Thomas Guenzel

     a months ago

    Imagine your mom being so pretty that when you get a B she stops talking to you for a month

  • Brice Burch

    Brice Burch

     a months ago

    I'm thinking about running away from home

  • Llama Time.

    Llama Time.

     a months ago

    this is emotional abuse

  • Jeanett Faelnar

    Jeanett Faelnar

     a months ago

    Wow so a parent stares at you there strict

  • Danielle Williams

    Danielle Williams

     a months ago

    Her: when I get in trouble, my mom stares at me and get disappointed
    Me: when I get in trouble, my mom and my dad beat my ass

  • Kakashi 1076

    Kakashi 1076

     a months ago

    Do u not fucking think about why the hell she is strict

  • PoofBallDaily

    PoofBallDaily

     a months ago

    90% of comments: I wish my mom was this nice

    I swear the next generation of parents are going to be absolute pushovers because they hate the way they were parented so much they are going to go out of their way to do the opposite of what their parents did. 😂